Quick question – Do you know that people who surround themselves with collaborative, supportive and inspiring relationships experience exponentially more success in reaching their personal and professional goals?
When we surround ourselves with relationships that support us taking bold, confident steps toward living life at our highest potential we experience extraordinary success and we attract others who are doing the same.
The happiest and most successful people are those who connect effortlessly, build rapport and can influence others to collaborate with ease.
But so many of us struggle to connect and struggle with some of our important relationships. And when we struggle in relationships we struggle in other areas of our life because our thoughts, feelings and emotions related to the struggle of the relationship infect everything we choose to do, say and think.
Our lives are impacted positively or negatively by our relationships.
So, you’ll agree the most important skills to master are relationship skills:
Our habitual behaviors to engage others influences how people interact with us
Awareness of the factors that impact how we engage others, will give us the advantage to unlearn sabotaging behaviors and create space to gain maximum benefit from innate and new relationships skills.
Mastery of relationship skills requires an unshakeable understanding of:
- how those factors develop our habitual behaviors that impact how others engage with us either positively or negatively,
- how the stories we have created to make sense of past experiences cause us to judge and react to the positive and negative behaviors of others,
- how judgement infects how we engage and communicate, and whether we feel we are being judged and
- how we misinterpret and create erroneous stories about past experiences that influence our relationships and discover and be empowered by what they really mean.
Understanding how all of these factors unintentionally sabotage even our best efforts to connect with others will shift how we engage others and how they engage with us.
Unlearn unintentional sabotaging behavior and create space for genuine connection
When we are open to connect and eliminate the barriers caused by those unintentional, unexplored, habitual behaviors we have developed for self-protection we can rely on our innate relationship skills and enjoy connection even with the most challenging relationships.
You have already read the free ebook 7 Relationship Derailers and 5 Habits to Avoid Them. It is a summary of the program The Relationship Detox Manifesto I created to help unlearn unintentional behaviors that sabotage connection, building rapport and developing authentic relationships. It is a program that others have said has given them a clearer perspective about how they engage others and why others behave the way they do as well.
In addition I believe it is important to understand and develop the behaviors that create space for connection. That is why I added 3 bonus downloads, free. If you have not had a moment to read them, please take the time. Those three alone will get you on a better track to be able to connect with others. They are part of the 10 part series Creating Space for Connection, which includes learning about establishing healthy boundaries to be able to enjoy and not be impacted by challenging and toxic relationships we cannot walk away from – think family and colleagues.
Making it easy for you
Here are the links to your free downloads again because I believe we are all meant to develop many authentic relationships and experience genuine connection throughout or lives to constantly enrich our lives. Unfortunately so many of us miss this experience.
7 Relationship Derailers and 5 Habits to Avoid Them, free ebook
Give Ego What it Wants – Ego is the source of judgement, feeling judged, self-protection and unintentional sabotage. Left unexplored ego is the enemy.
Don’t Let Your Emotional Triggers Derail You – For most people it only takes one bad interaction with someone to set a chain reaction of negative situations that infects all other interactions, productivity, creativity and what they attract
Choose, Fear or Love – You may be surprised but even in loving relationships most people choose fear. It’s an easy choice, but once you understand and unlearn fear responses the weight of protection is lifted.
I’ve found that clarity about how our relationships are unintentionally impacted by unexplored habitual behaviors influenced by our egos, emotions, unexamined and misinterpreted stories and expectations, changes the way we engage with others and the way they engage with us. I’ve also found that exchanging habitual negative behaviors with those that attract positive connection will expand our positive relationships. And, that learning how and when to establish boundaries and how understanding love responses versus fear responses sets a firm foundation to attract relationships that are supportive, collaborative and inspire us to step boldly and confidently into our purpose with passion and experience extraordinary success.