We thrive in every aspect of our lives when we feel connected to others in positive relationships. We are social beings who depend on each other for inspiration, feeling secure, feeling confident, positive reinforcement, help, collaboration and expanding all feelings and behaviors related to love.
The basis of positive relationships is love – compassion, kindness, service, inspiration and generosity.
Positive connection in positive relationships affect our confidence in our choices, confidence to try new things and take risks, confidence in identifying our purpose and being purposeful. Feeling connected inspires confidence during uncertainty. We are more hopeful. We feel supported.
All of our systems respond positively when surrounded by positive relationships. Rather than shallow breathing we breathe deep, healthy breaths. Our energy soars, our thoughts are positive and our choices are bold with expectation of positive outcomes.
A deficiency of positive social connection leads to feeling of insecurity and fear. We find it difficult to see possibility or solutions.
Quality of relationships
Think of a challenging relationship you have. Recall a conversation you have had with that person. You may have started the interaction in a positive mood, but once the interaction and communication becomes negative, how did you feel?
Negative relationships infect our emotions, thoughts and energy negatively. They drag us down and weigh us down. Not only does our mood suffer, our productivity, performance and creativity suffer negatively.
The conversation triggered negative emotions, followed by you having a series of negative experiences such as you making a mistake, not being able to focus to get your work done or drop in energy and productivity? You seem to become a magnet for negative experiences.
The quality of our relationships impact our emotions and the experiences we have.
But, just as you have negative experiences when your emotions, mood and perspective are tainted by negative interactions, you will attract positive experiences when you surround yourself with positive and inspiring relationships.
For each of us our primary purpose is to be a source of love – to be helpful, to inspire, to collaborate and to be a source of compassion, generosity and kindness. You should engage with others, and others should engage with you, with that intention for every interaction.
Our interactions are intended for each of us to inspire the other. We engage with an intention to enhance each other’s lives. To make each other feel valued, understood, and appreciated. To make their day better, whether with a small gesture or extremely helpful gesture.
When engaging your colleagues think about how you can collaborate with them, support them to achieve common goals or mentor them. When interacting with family think about what you can do to cause them to feel a stronger sense of belonging, security, comfort and encouragement.
Other people’s behavior toward you is a reflection of their character and says nothing at all about you. But your behavior toward others speaks loudly about who you are.
Surround yourself with inspiring relationships
If we want to live our best life, we must be deliberate about whom we are attracting into our life and allowing to influence our energy, creativity, perspective, choices, goals and values.
We must make conscious decisions about how we connect, unlearn unconscious habitual behaviors that may cause us to attract negative relationships and repel positive relations. We must create space for connection, learn the art of connecting and be intentional about being a source of positive experiences for others.
In the busyness we have woven into our lives connection can fray if we do not make powerful connection a priority.
“Our deepest natural desire is to feel positive connection.”
– Leanna Butterfield Cruz